Sunday, May 16, 2010

Oldest Boy and my heart...

Yes, I know there are plenty of posts about him lately, but between graduation and getting his college paperwork taken care of...he's got alot of stuff written on my "to-do" list.

Yesterday was difficult for me, something that I didn't expect...I was helping him get ready to go to his girlfriend's prom, they go to different schools (next week is his prom). He got most of his stuff on here, and was going to go to her parents to finish up and take pictures etc. 

I walk him to his car, get his A/C cranking, hang his tuxedo jacket in the back, and give him a kiss...and sob.

Teary-eyed as I type this too. All week I was SO excited for him to go, couldn't wait to see him in his tux, helped him pick out flowers.  Why now am I feeling so heartbroken?

I think part of me worries so much about my boys leaving...and not seeing much of them when they go. I mean, my mom and I hang out, go to movies together, that sort of thing...but how often do grown men want to go and just hang out alone with their mothers? Am I destined to be the butt of every "mother-in-law" joke on the planet?  You've seen the movies...where the wife says "Yeah, but YOUR MOTHER" was here!" 

I want to be included in my grandchildren's births, but I know her mom has first dibs...I want to help when there is a problem, but I know she'll turn to her own mother first for help.  It's normal and natural (I think) for it to be that way...

I wonder if other moms of boys have these fears?  Am I just making myself crazy with it?

Am I going to drive my husband insane when these kids leave???  Is there enough chocolate on the planet to get me through this???


  1. Let me just say that you will be included in your boy's lives even when they are grown. Take your cues from your daughter-in-laws. If you build strong relationships with them (as in not always taking your son's side but being fair) she will want yo to be involved. My mother in law was in the delivery room with me when I had Eryn and Timmy. It won't be as hard as you think is she loves you like a mother.

  2. I'm here from the LBS tea party! Super cute blog :)

    My "baby" brother just had his senior's rough stuff letting them grow up!

  3. Thank you, Emi. I really hope it will be that way for me.

  4. Hi Davney,

    Thank you for coming by and your comment. :) It is so hard, I had no idea.

    I'll come by and visit you, too! Have a great Sunday. :)

  5. Aww Hon! Let me just say that, while we live a bit of a ways from Mondo's mom now, that I love her to bits and I try really hard to make time for her to spend with the girls. We are actually going to go visit with her today, even with Mondo going out of town for work. I love my mom in law! I wish we lived closer to her. I bet your daughter in laws will love you too! It already seems like OB's gf likes you a lot.

  6. Thank you, T. I appreciate your words very much. Your mom-in-law is lucky Mondo picked you! :)

  7. I have those same worries. There is a saying - "Your daughter's your daughter for all of her life; your son is your son 'til he takes him a wife." When I had my first baby, I talked about this with my mom, who already had a grandchild thanks to my brother. She confirmed it is different when it is your daughter's child.

    That said... my oldest just finished his sophomore year at college. He goes to school halfway across the country. I miss him, but know it was a good choice for him and good for us both to have some distance. (Of course I also know he may meet his future wife out there and never move back near me!)

  8. Hi WT, I've heard that saying and dang it, it stinks. lol. I'm sure you do miss him, I'm not looking forward to that...but your positive attitude is wonderful.

    Thank you for stopping by. I'll be back over to visit again. :) I really do enjoy your blog.


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